My wife came home today and was really reasonable. She was angry but made a lot of coherent points.

She even apologized for something she said. I was surprised by that.

I don't mind arguing with her like that at all.

She was totally overwhelmed by how fast I'm moving on things. I went from agonizingly trying to make peace, to getting a lawyer, a realtor, a home assessment, looking for housing, and prepping the house for sale in a week. I told her I understood all of that, and that her head must be spinning, and that this must all be hard for her with working full time and her health issues too.

When something like that happens I feel like I'm crazy and that I've let this all escalate out of control in my own mind. That I've over exaggerated things to myself. And That I have to somehow make it all up to her and apologize for letting this escalate so much.

The same woman a few days ago outright refused to believe or acknowledge things the kids told her she did that hurt them.

WTF is wrong with my thinking?