Hugs, Omers. I'd be wary of his trying to diagnose a personality disorder after having seen him such a short amount of time, particularly one that has been very stressful for you. Plus, I know BPD is disproportionately diagnosed in females. From what my T has said, people can also have some BPD traits without actually having BPD (he's said that's the case for me, that I may have a couple traits, but I definitely wouldn't meet the criteria for an actual diagnosis).

Is New T willing to talk to your Pdoc? I know that would involve your Pdoc knowing what's happened in the past few weeks, but she could also tell New T that this isn't typical for you.

I should add that there's nothing inherently wrong with having BPD. It just seems very premature for him to be throwing out a possible diagnosis at this point.