
Jan 08, 2023, 01:23 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by Nammu
Oo Elton has much cooler glasses than I’ll ever have. But seriously the way people mistake me for someone who knows more than I know is hilarious. Even when I was young. When my daughter was young we lived in the twin cities and they have many museums and art galleries. Whenever an exhibition came to the cities I’d read up on it and take my daughter explaining things to her. Once an Aztec exhibition came when she was 3 or 4. Being deaf I can’t join the guided tours of docents so I read up before hand. I was explaining to my daughter what we thought we knew about their calendar when a group of Asian tourists gathered around me to listen. It’s not like I’m an expert but people just listen to me. And that was way before I got glasses! I had a friend who told me it’s because I don’t claim to know enough that I sound like I do know more than I do. If that makes sense. Yet by sight alone I get judged and dismissed because I look like an bohemian hippie. I can’t say how many in the psych field or how many pdoc have said their first impression of me was to dismiss me because of the way I dress. But then I talked and was re-evaluated But I love my hippie clothes.
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Wonderful story about the tourists That sounds like something that would happen to my oldest sister. She's tall and tends to look serious because she's often thinking about things like trying to recall where she left her car, or should she use the bathroom now or later. People take her so seriously and either ask her for directions or act as though they expect her to be mean. Well, she is seldom good with directions and she's never mean. Go figure.
It's horrible that psych professionals judge anyone by the way they're dressed. I'll bet the most talented ones don't. You can get a vibe from someone, even colors from their existence, without noticing what they're wearing.
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