Sunrise,
I am glad your T seem to help you today. Maybe by saying stay present he is also suggesting that you try not to allow yourself to be pushed back in time or pulled off track by your husband's comments. I can think of times when a comment is made and it causes me to drift off on a tangent (...did I say that....Am I really a cold hearted *****....did I really do that..? ) Meanwhile, as my mind is floating off topic, present conversation is still progressing and I totally miss what is going on. Maybe your T was trying to get you to stay alert to what is being discussed and simply dismiss the digs and distractor comments your husband commonly throws out.

Maybe tomorrow before your meeting do some positive mental imagery or self talk into a mirror. Tell yourself how great you are going to do, how well you are going to stand your ground on key issues,... etc. Is there any time before the meeting when you can go for a walk or at least sit outside somewhere and soak up some positive vibes. Catch the sunrise.

Good luck tomorrow. You are going to surprise yourself and your husband by being confident and clear about what you want and deserve in this meeting.