You're all correct, except the comment about the therapist. I don't ruminate about my wife's disorders there, I focus on changing me. I think I've been SO careful about speaking poorly about my wife in therapy that it took a very long time for this to all come together.

I ruminate on my own time.

Yes, I see that ruminating isn't good, but cut me some slack... This had a long build up but this is all pretty overwhelming lately.

Goodnight everyone.