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Old Jan 09, 2023, 07:41 AM
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Dear T,
Was that some sort of subconscious (or conscious?) avoidance on your part in not being able to reply to the email either time you said you would? I understand you may have been busy, but I offered the out with "We can just talk about it Monday." You still seemed like you were intending to reply. But I'm also thinking of the other couple times you didn't reply to an email (not counting the time you accidentally deleted one), and those were times where you were either unhappy and/or confused about what I wrote. So I think it's natural to wonder if that's the case here. But then, you were in communication with me about this one, whereas the other times it was radio silence. So maybe it was literally that you were unexpectedly busy?

But then also asking to change the time and *saying* it was to accommodate another client, not "It will work better for my schedule." Was that intentional?

I guess I"m just trying to get a feeling for what I'll be walking into today. Are you bothered by the email? Understanding? Sympathetic? Even if you'd said, "I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and explaining more. I'm pretty busy today, so can we just talk about this Monday?" Or "I think it's better if we just talk about this in person"--that would have felt different. But I know it's not about what I want you to do.

I just need to focus on sharing my truth and my experience and feelings today. Not on what I wish you'd have done or said. Or what I wish you *would* say, like a true apology.

Love,
LT
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