This is a really interesting topic to me too. I'm more like kim_johnson--I am not a girly girl. I've always wanted men to like me for who I was inside--my intellect, feelings, soul. I didn't want them attracted to me because I dressed in tight clothing and showed cleavage, wore lipstick, etc. So I have always dressed in comfortable, simple clothing. I love T-shirts. I only wear comfortable shoes. I can't squish my feet into those painful, pointed, fashionable shoes at all--my foot is just shaped all wrong. I always felt there was something wrong about being in pain and physically uncomfortable just to "look good" or even worse, just to please a man. I always wanted men to like me for who I am, not for my clothing and make-up. Also, the field I went into values intellect, not appearances, so none of the women dress flashy and girly. That's just the professional culture, so I was a perfect fit. I remember once when I was still in training, I went to a professional conference and there was this one woman there who wore a lot of make-up and perfume, and we all didn't know what to make of her! (As I've aged, my views have relaxed a bit and I now wear some make-up. My skin tone is not the best anymore and using a bit of foundation really helps even it out. So I can appreciate that using aids like make-up can definitely help one's appearance.)