It sounds to me like your mother really is concerned about you and your daughter, and wants what she beleives is best for you. But at the same time, she is pushing you away by pushing her choices on you. And I'm sure that it is painful for you and for her both.

Can you thank her for her concern and tell her that you need to follow your own conscience? Maybe you could remind her about her belief in agency, and the war in heaven, and how we fought for the right to choose for ourselves.

Maybe you could give her some examples of how you are living a good life. I know a lot of good people who have different beliefs than I do. Maybe she can think of some too.

Wishing you well,
Rap