Déjà vu. Working different shifts is so hard on a marriage, your interests change. Making time for family and yourselves is nearly impossible. I have to say that part of our personal success is that once the kids started school we both worked the same shift, in fact we worked at the same place. We were together 24/7 which might destroy some marriages, but it really worked for us.

Being friends right now is the only choice you have. Before romance can blossom you have to get to know each other again. If I can give you one piece of advice, be honest, with yourself and your wife. I know we stumbled in the beginning because he thought that spending time together was a guarantee. That lead me to believe he took me for granted. Luckily communication got us through those first few bumpy moments.

I don’t know how long you’ve been married, but many people that have been married a long time honestly believe that their partner knows what they’re thinking. Make sure that you’re on the same page.