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<font color="green">Father's Day has its difficulties for me too. My beloved father has been dead more than 30 years now and my 'dear' stepfather molested me.
My therapist told me that I don't have to send them cards for these special days -- and for the last couple of years I haven't. However I like to send cards, and I am forgiving them and cards are an easy way to stay in contact with them. So I have decided to go back to sending cards - I may have to make my own cards as I CANNOT send one of those soppy Hallmark cards! That would be like lying and I refuse to lie any more. They hurt me - they were not good parents. Mother is in therapy herself and has only recently admitted that she did things that were abusive to us. She still sees herself as a great mother. But I do love her and I am trying to focus on the good stuff and let the bad things go.
My therapist had a poster that said you can't make a new yesterday but you can make a better today.</font>
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dalila
Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.
-Erma Bombeck
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