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Originally Posted by Marie123
I understand reaching out........Put a huge "Stop Sign" in your mind every time you think about contacting him. I don't know if that will help, but at least it will remind you why you shouldn't do it. If you do reach out, imagine what the conversation would go like.......he will start talking about how miserable HE is. There is an old saying, "when yu are going thru hell, keep on going.
Try to give yourself kudos for your victories.....every day you don't smoke, for instance, every time you resist contacting him. You are doing the best you can with a "mountain" of obstacles, etc.
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Thanks SO much @
Marie123!
I started smoking again. There's NO way I can go through a divorce AND unemployment stress. Screw that. I will quit another day when life is far less stressful for me.
And yeah, the stop sign kind of works along with thinking about the repercussions. I know he would manipulate the situation somehow, and like you said, he would likely turn it around to be about him. I think it would show him weakness and an "in" to get to me again. Nope, not going there! I will be stronger than that.