thanks everyone for your kind words and advice. actually i found out he was lying Doh2007. apparently the kids were not on his side. he was crying yesterday saying that " not even his kids support him in his time of need". i don't know exactly what it was they said to him, but as per his statement it is evident that they were not passing judgment on my decision. i was relieved to hear this. though i did feel bad for my ex because i know that this has been very hard on him. but unfortunately for him my decision still stands and he is going to have to come to terms with the fact that i no longer want to be in this relationship.