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Old Jan 18, 2023, 12:28 PM
NPMAN NPMAN is offline
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Originally Posted by Motts View Post
Why do you "owe" her anything though? The only person you owe anything to, is to yourself...to do what's best for your own wellbeing.

It's also a red flag that she's trying to keep you emotionally hooked on her, by changing for you. She should only change for herself, not for you or anyone else. Those types of changes, by the way, are only temporary, b/c they are used to manipulate the other person.

Like I already suggested, people can be platonic parents with each other without being involved in a romantic relationship together. It sounds to me, like that is the best alternative for you and your girlfriend.

You can break up with her and still be a platonic friend and loving parent to your child with her, without being her romantic boyfriend. That transition will either be messy or smooth depending on her agreement and commitment to that agenda. If she refuses, suggest a couple's counselor so that you have a mediator to keep the transition smooth for you both, emotionally-speaking.
Well, the first 2 years of our relationship were great. Plus I know that it was always her dream to have a baby and she's a great person, so I feel like I "owe" her because she deserves it... she won't have many shots at this, and deserves her dream to come true and while I do feel it's a sort of emotional sacrifice from my side (as I've chosen to stay for the whole year with a person I don't really feel any romantic attraction to), I feel like she completely deserves it.

I really like your idea of platonic relationship... I think it could really work (even though I know it will break her heart)... but I can't disregard my (unfortunate) emotions.