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Originally Posted by Rose76
CBT is not an approach that fixes everything. It's not always possible to logic away emotional pain. Sometimes you just have to recognize the pain and know that healing happens with the passage of time. I've been in a lot of pain. I know it's unlikely that the pain will last forever.
When my boyfriend died in 2020, I had some bad pain to go through. I went through it. And I recovered. It's likely that will happen again. That's the best I can do.
My sister hurt me by not calling me at Christmas. It was mean of her. She was mad and acted spitefully. I deserved better than that. This is how she treats people - not just me. I have to lower my expectations. She was mean to my father when he was dying. This is her character. I've gone thru things like this with her before. It's just who she is. My other sister has been very kind. I'm lucky to have her in my life. People are as they are.
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I am sorry if I have hurt you. May be I was too direct. I am depressed as well for the time being, so I am a bit slow in my thinking and writing. I meant it well.
For me CBT is the real cure. That is why I recommend it to people whom I hope can use it if they want it, of course. It took me years to understand what CBT really is about. I laughed about that method earlier.
You are right. CBT doesn't cure everything even if it has become more sophisticated now, than it was before. It does not give me my BF back. It does not give me my dead friends back. Neither does it give me some understanding people in my life NOW, neither this nor that. But, and that is important to me, it can give me strategies to fight in the here and now, help me to set up goals and work toward them one by one. Help me to not give into depression too easily and to rise as quick as possible when I have a set-back.
Let us do our best with the methods we know best, each at our parts in the world. (We don't have to make a big deal about this. It was only a tired person who tried to, in a way she thought was polite at the moment, to tell about what is effective for her and wanted another person to know about that if that other person wanted to use the same methods).
I send good hopes your way! May you depression not last too long!
