The reason I first sought out therapy is because I was so angry at my now ex and I didn't know what to do with that anger. It certainly wasn't helping the situation. I didn't want to feel angry all the time and was hoping for a way to dissipate my anger. I was angry, as it turns out, because he was abusing me and had been for a long time. It helped so much to hear my therapist, a man, say that my anger was justified. I still haven't fully come to terms with being okay with anger, but that helped.