RDMercer, in even skimming your posts I felt so moved. As if I was reading a novel since you have been posting longer than I. And like some novels, I had to pause and skip to the end to see what the character is doing now. Lol. I will read more in depth.
But this post really resonates with me like as if I wrote it.
I see your longing. I can tell how you have worked with everything in you to work it out with your wife.

No matter what happens for you, you need to know that you are valuable. There are few like you. Kindness and self responsibility and equal partnership are very hard to find. She should be fighting to keep you.
As my husband should me.
I am going back to read more of your story.
(Grins )