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moodyblue83 · Jan 22, 2023, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by LifeSupport

Hey this has been going on a long time for you. You say this has been happening for 40 years.

moodyblue83: gets triggered by wife's silent treatment. you feel no trust, feel alone, being used, no affection

wife: gets triggered and shuts up(feels she might say something she will regret later, might incriminate herself)

I'm curious, how long does it take for the silent treatment to stop?

Sure LifeSupport..........With her it can go on for days until either I ask her something she HAS to reply to or it can just last till the next morning where she will then act as if nothing happened.
It's a very volatile , long lasting dysfunctional relationship.
The bottom line is that she will never come to me and try and have an adult conversation related to the subject at hand . Or what caused the shutdown to begin with. I feel like I'm connected to a complete stranger and someone who cannot verbalize her emotions other than in a " I'm gonna get back at you " punitive way.