I disagree with Christians believing you cant be good person if you're not a Christian. I'm a Christian myself, and I know that's not true. But it is our belief that one cannot be saved without Christ, and whether or not you are
a good person or have a good life does not change that. Satan isn't against being nice, he's only against God.
Our reason for doing good things shouldn't be because we're afraid of going to hell, because we cannot earn salvation or favor with God. We do good things to glorify God, and to help us lean closer to him.

If I were a mother, I wouldnt be worried that they just didn't want to go to church anymore because that makes you a nice person, I would be worried because... you're going to be spending eternity somewhere... but it's your choice whether or not you'll spend it with God.

However, alot of churches today get wrong ideas about the bible and try to twist it, or leave things out. Or they just only focus on one part of it, and never teach other parts.

My suggestion to you: going to church does not save anyone. You do not HAVE to go to church. God says this himself, "The sabbath was made for man, not man for the sabbath" However, I encourage you to read the Bible for yourself, reading certain books in it that you haven't read before. It's lack of understanding that discourages a lot of people.

You said, "but, I also believe that some women were given different talents, and we should use those talents and desires the way we see fit. "
I somewhat disagree. Yes, many people have different talents, but using them to glorify oneself or to pursue worldly desires will only lead to an even greater desire to keep trying to fill up the emptiness inside of us, and eventually this desire will overcome us, and we will get nowhere. I know this from experience. If one has a special talent, then they should use it for God's glory, because it was He who gave us this talent in the first place.

I hope this helps a little bit.