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Old Jan 23, 2023, 06:59 AM
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Originally Posted by poshgirl View Post
Have Hope, sadly they do appear to be toxic.

Given the other things you are experiencing at the moment, it's really another problem you could do without.

Can so relate to this but with my elderly mother. Every Friday afternoon, "friend" across road phones her for a chat. Then when I see mother on a Saturday, I get full rundown of conversation. It's usually one-sided as this person is obsessed with health issues. I've recently told mother that her mental strength is being sapped.

Sadly, there are people (like my mother) who do not have the ability to deal with this. Cutting short the call, for example by faking an urgent trip to toilet, viewed as lying. So, without taking action she's stuck in this cycle.

Perhaps putting some distance between you and these friends will stop them draining you
Thanks so much @poshgirl.

My story is similar to the story you describe. I am also thoroughly annoyed that I contacted my gf for support because I was having a meltdown, and she chose to use our time on the phone to describe in great detail and at length all of her own issues rather than helping me through mine!
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