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Originally Posted by unaluna
 altho i would exchange the word feeling for the first occurrence of thought in many of your statements above. First come unbearable feelings, then erroneous thoughts.
I have found books about shame helpful, as that was my parents' only disciplinary tactic. They would ask me, "Arent you shame?" And my tiny child brain would get caught up in how that wasnt the correct term grammatically.  |
Yes, I would say that you are right in your sayings: "First come unbearable feelings, then erroneous thoughts". There must have been a trigger once, but what continues the depression or whatever, don't have to be the same thoughts that the one one thought first.
I lost a familymember only three years old. The grief was unbearabe. I never forgot those feelings when they let me know about it, that moment. What I thought at that actual moment, I cannot remember, but I understand that loss, real or imagined, is playing a role in my life now.
Sorry, that your parents treated you that way!
