((((Mendingmysoul))). That is obviously a very valid reason to not say anything. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. I guess it's important to remember that there's a difference between not talking and the "silent treatment."

In a situation like mine, the pattern of DH's stonewalling has become well established and he seems like he's being manipulative with it. What you're doing isn't manipulative, it's a healthy response to take care of yourself in an unreasonable situation. Thank you for reminding us that there can be multiple perspectives.