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Old Jan 24, 2023, 11:48 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
It’s tough but universe didn’t set it up so you can go back to your husband. It’s not the lesson G-d would want people to learn. Go to exes when things go rough? I don’t think so

I am sure your husband wants to file jointly because he wants you to do his taxes. No one files jointly after filing for divorce (how dumb is that?). If you don’t do his taxes he’d have to go to HR block, which will cost him money. Dude is so sneaky

I’d not be telling him anything about yourself. You filed for divorce. End of story. You losing your job isn’t his business. Being vulnerable with him just opens the gates for manipulation.

Job loss and divorce are very hard. But it will get better and it could be always much worse. Stay strong. Could you rely on your family for moral support? Relying on your husband for moral support while going through divorce with him is not a good plan
Thank you thank you thank you. I needed to hear all of this right now. I need grounding and I need a reality check.

I ALMOST reached out to him -- I drafted an email even, but did not send it. I know that it would be a slippery slope from there, and it would be interpreted as an invitation.

I can call my mother and can rely on her for moral support - and sometimes my sister though she is less available. I am not happy with 3 of my closer friends right now so I am distancing myself from them.

I do feel very alone in my struggles - but I am so grateful for all the support I am receiving in this thread from everyone and on this forum. It really helps!!!!

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