UPDATE: Happy ending to the story

I called my friend as it was so important to me to express what was ultimately 'sadness'.

Essentially, I expressed myself clearly and not accusingly, I just talked about how her stance made me feel.

At first she was defensive, then she started to cry and I cried, then we laughed.

If anything, we feel closer now...

With your listening and writing, I was able to work out how I was feeling through this thread.

I realized I was harbouring resentment and, honestly, that made me feel even worse. I realized that I wanted to save the friendship and not let the resentment grow.

Wow!! Do I ever feel better now...!! Phewf... what a relief as the weight has been lifted.

Thank you all so much!!