Thank you for the question. It is generally her stance that indicates she thinks she is superior to me.

She frequently talks over me in conversation. Actually, "A LOT". That could be because she is frightened to lose her train of thought?? (She is not treated, but claims to have ADHD.) But, it's had the effect of making it a one-way conversation. And it is I who goes quiet when maybe I shouldn't be so docile??

I'm generally not a wallflower but I feel the only way to be friends with her is to let her get away with talking over me, allowing her to brag about her intelligence (when most of what she knows is information gleaned from YouTube videos), and generally being in agreement with her, even if she's not sensitive to me and my needs.

Although she hasn't claimed to be a genius, she often calls herself 'gifted'. She is intelligent, but only in certain ways in my opinion. She calls herself a scientist though she isn't employed as one. I told her my former pdoc said I was gifted and I was once talking and she said to me that what I had just said was the only 'gifted' thing she has heard me say. Well, I didn't know it was a competition.

During the 2nd conversation last night (the apology convo), she said that how dare I think that I am of greater importance to her than she is to herself: that she said she wasn't talking about me being highly-sensitive, an empath, codependent that she was talking about the research in reference to herself. But I said I just mentioned to her the previous week that the pdoc called me highly-sensitive. She said she couldn't remember that. I said how could she forget, I just mentioned it. She said so much, I was bombarded during the conversation. I think she was gaslighting me. and making it seem like she was apologizing when she really wasn't.

I wish I had recordings so I could read the transcript and learn to better defend myself.

Maybe it's a question of my having let her walk all over me?? for letting her get away with it?