I'm a 32M that was dating a 23F for the past 15 months (living together for 7). Long story short she had plans on moving to the West Coast last spring after her lease was up. She temporarily moved in with me, then it became permanent when she backed out. We've had talks where she flat out told me she debated braking up with me for this move but loves me too much and wants to make it work.

We also got in another heated argument this summer right before a family vacation I was bringing her with. Not to go too much into details but she accused me of some nasty things and I told her hey I think i'd be a good idea just let me go home this week. I'll give you time/space, we'll cool off and turn the page when I get back. She was pissed and said I embarrassed her to family friends not bringing her along. Honestly I didn't see it as a big deal (I paid for her flight) so I was out the money and I thought some space would do us good. She was upset and after we talked it over when I got back she again mentioned she debated breaking up with me, but we made up things were seemingly good.

Anyway just wanted to mention these prior 2 instances for context...

Fast forward semi recently her friends came into town for the weekend. They all went clubbing and got really drunk. I stayed up waiting for them had beds made, made them all late night snacks and we all stayed up talking. Around 430 am my gf says she's taking a shower and asks if I wanted to sit in the bathroom with her. So I sat on the toilet just listening to her drunk ramble in the shower about her absentee father growing up and some childhood trauma etc.

Granted it's like 430AM I'm tired after staying up waiting for them/taking care of them so I must've glanced at my phone just scrolled thru my texts legit not really even thinking. My gf poked her head out and said glad your phone is more important than my childhood stories and got pissed.

My GF gets out of the shower and said the following things to me:

- I used to tell my mom there are no good men in this world until I met you, that's clearly not true

- Moving in with me was the worst decision of her life

- I have 0 emotional intelligence, I'm a piece of **** ****ing loser

- I'm gonna continue wearing slutty outfits, you have no idea how many DMs I get

- Only thing I ever wanted was to get in her pants (which i said thats funny you said I played hard to get and you laughed you had to take initiative by finally bringing an overnight bag to my house 7 months after dating when we planned to go to brunch lol)

- Go on text all the other girls in your phone, Idc if you go out and F them

- It's emotionally tolling having a bf / being in a relationship

So I then asked her do you mean all this? She said yep! So I got my jacket and started walking around the city 430am-830 since she had all friends over, I didn't want to make a scene and I had no place to go. As I was walking I jotted down everything she said to me to confront her when I got back. When I got home I plopped into bed and she tried snuggling me I said I'm tired I just need to sleep babe.

Anyway I told my buddy about this incident the next day and he was genuinely concerned. He said she's emotionally manipulating me and to get out. I talked to my gf later that night she didn't show much concern was like I'm sorry I was drunk I was saying dumb stuff. I went to pull up my notes on my phone to address what she said and she kinda rolled her eyes like seriously you made a note of all this? It wasn't the most productive conversation. Is this something worth looking past like hey this is a 1x drunk thing or is really bad?

For context too I'm a homebody I literally play mens leagues sports with my buddies 2x a week, or am either downstairs at my condo gym, or hanging around my place learning coding or just watching tv. For her to stay stuff like go text other girls it's crazy I don't associate with the nightlife, I don't mess around or give her a reason to doubt me. Also I allegedly embarrassed my gf 1 time while I was out drinking (which i rarely do) so since then I made it a point to cut drinking. And like the other 2 most recently times I was tipsy drinking the past few months out in the city, I stopped and picked up my gf a cookie from our fav spot in the city and brought her back ice cream the other time and she laughed like it was the cutest thing. Basically I'm the opposite when I see my gf tipsy, I'm so happy to see her, so i find it hard to deal with her berating me while drunk and don't see it as a valid excuse...