When things get that way for me (and they still do, for short lengths of time, these days), I chip away at chores, and take whatever success I find as a victory. I am very realistic about what I can get done, and when.

I hope the pain of this problem starts to fade for you, and soon. It is really hard when the people we care about don't seem to care at all for us. It's literally, physically painful, I know.

There is so much of human behaviour that I will never be able to get my head around. Sometimes you just have to walk away, grieve, and do the best that you can for yourself.

You matter, just as you are. Keep yourself safe, and do not measure yourself by the unwholesome yardstick she's now employing, for whatever reason.