disstressed i understand your situation from your husbands point of view sort of... i have been sexually abused by my brother since i was 13 and he is two years and 4 months younger than me... i want my brothers to be part of my childrens life if i have any because they would be family. however i "hope" that the oldest of my two brothers won't do anything funny with them like he did/does to me. i know that is in the wishing things didn't happen category but people can change right? so maybe your husband is using that logic? hope we can help you here if you need anything leave me a message.
Tig (and others)