Thank you divine1966, TishaBuv, and moodyblues83 for your feedback ... it is so appreciated!!........................................@__ divine 1966... I ought to have laughed when she said she's a scientist, as it's not the first time either. I am (overly?) sensitive to other's feeling so I kept quiet which to her must've seemed like I agreed with her. One thing for me to note is that I am too accommodating to other people. It was a survival technique that I had to use in childhood. But, I don't need to use it now... in fact, it's making me vulnerable to be preyed upon. But, that being said, I hope for humility and grace and not to lash out at others for the sake of lashing out, as the pendulum swings; however, to defend myself when the time arises to defend myself... maybe I could use humour to keep others in check before they hurt me or take the stance that they are superior to me? Any thoughts?..........................................@__ TishaBuv ... She really was cruel to me to use my vulnerabilities against me... that is not a friend... the irony is that I shared my vulnerabilities with her... I'm less angry at myself today, and more sad about it... but live and learn... I heard on tv the other day, to give yourself the grace of understanding while committing to move forward... I will try to take this as a learning experience and be gentle with myself... I just don't want to be afraid to share my vulnerabilities again with someone, as I feel I might shut off, but I definitely need to be more selective. though. I really didn't see this coming from her, as I've been so kind to her... I am somehow reminded of the old saying, however, that when someone tells you who that are, believe them: she said she could play the narc's game better than they could... scary stuff really. That would mean, she is a manipulator, no?.........................................@__ moodblues83..... thank you for showing me that not only do I have the right to be angry, but that this situation calls for my being angry and need to stand up for myself... You're right it was very rude of her to say, "Good. Thank you." when I said that I didn't ask for her to be me therapist. I truly ought to have ended the call there. She showed a lot of hubris and cheek by saying that.... I won't call her again, but when she calls me back, I think I'll just tell her that I am unavailable to talk... there's a line that's drawn in the sand and she over-stepped it and hurt me. She didn't even say she was sorry, but said, "I'm sorry, you feel that way." Pretty big cop out. Like you alluded, with friends like these who needs enemies... I don't want to get into a major fight with her for 2 reasons? one, what is the point as the friendship in over now AND two, she said she has revenge fantasies about other people, and I don't want her to hurt me in some way... I am afraid of her, now, how would you suggest I handle the situation? Just let things slowly peter out... ??......................Thank you all again... you're really helping me!!