This guy sounds like a liar and a freeloader. He doesn't follow through on promises, and he doesn't treat you with respect. Whatever you do, do NOT move for him and do not give up your home. You have a lot going for you and this guy will drag you down. Best to get rid of him and figure out other solutions for childcare. I wouldn't want to raise babies with this man. And he's only a boyfriend, not a husband.