"husband" has been out of work for awhile and stopped sending support the last couple months. today, i reminded him via text about the small debt payment that he owes on the account in both our names, by the upcoming due date. its like 34 dollars minimum payment. he texted back saying he cant pay it because he has no money and no job right now, but he hopes to be employed soon.

i didnt respond.

so i guess i'll have to pay it or get a late fee on the account that my name is on....

good thing i put that account in pay down status because i am sure he'd have it maxed out by now. He told me before i shut it down that he would charge up debt on our account however he wanted to and i was an idiot to care because he told me he is responsible to pay it off, so why would i worry about it, except to want to control him.

the way he is, he will let the 1k debt become 100k if it was possible through late fees and no payments.

he then abruptly texted: "you only ever wanted someone who would conform to your desired specifications. it took you 20 years to realize i was telling the truth. that i don't want to conform. that i do what i want."

i was just trying to find out about the payment.

he said "duh" his observation was not about the debt or money, but a "short summary of our marriage."

he said this through more texts over several hours: "have you filed for that divorce yet? seems like you could have got that done asap. super weird you've waited so long. holding out for a miracle? laughy face. remember you sht canned me.

"you tried so many different narratives to get me to do something worthy of divorcing me. tenacious.

"your sad life. just...like...your...mom. ask stupid questions get stupid answers. bye. its dirty what you did. true manipulation from a very manipulative woman. now you can find a real man like [my mom's pervert husband] to make you happy. just like your mom did.

"sweet dreams."

what scares me is i don't know wtf he is talking about. is he out of his mind? my god how much does he hate me?

my guess is someone is challenging him, and he in turn is blaming me and justifying lashing out at me.

what did i want him to conform to? i really don't know. i would ask him, but i am no longer delusional enough to believe that would be fruitful.