It’s a really old fashioned thing to say that ‘how are you still single?’ I started having people say it to me, too, when I was approaching my mid 20’s back in 1990. It was even a sexist out-of-fashion thing to say then and I found it really offensive.

There are many potential partners for you who would not be abusive. There is hope for you, if you are open to having a healthy relationship. With a therapist, you can work on your trauma issues and be healthy to find someone healthy.