I agree 100% with Tisha. There are people out there who are kind and considerate. Just take things easy, find people who share similar interests, and see how comfortable you are with them.

I went through a lot of bad experiences with men before I met my husband. In fact, just before I met him, I was swearing-off relationships, period. Even friends had treated me badly. I was genuinely hurt and traumatized, and even a bit bitter about it all.

But we just took our time, and really got to know each other as friends, first. And then I met all of his friends, people he'd been acquainted with, since grade school (a lot of them). They all had glowing things to say about him. This helped a great deal to put my mind at ease, knowing that his character was held in such high esteem by his longtime friends.

My approach to it all might seem old-fashioned, but it worked. I don't think he's perfect, or anything delusional like that. But he's perfect for me. And anything that needs working on, we do it together.

I'm personally doing much better than I was 20 years ago, and he's largely responsible for getting me to this point.

And don't forget---that little voice in your head is a pretty good guide. Don't ignore your gut instincts about people. They can help you a great deal.

I wish you all the best in your healing, and moving forward.