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Old Feb 03, 2023, 07:37 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Lots of people don’t have kids. No need to be guilty.

As about living with others. I am hard to live with and I need a ton of my own space my own friends and hobbies and have no desire to be attached to the hip. My husband is so easy going though that living with him doesn’t bother me. I was single most of my life, married him at 50 and no way I’d give up freedom to be with a man who’d be in my face 24/7. Not the kind of life I want.

You can find a man with whom your life will not be a prison. But you can also live apart. Personally I find it complicated. We both have very demanding high stress jobs, we work different shifts and I commute two hours a day. Having to go on dates and then drive to separate households would be draining. Packing overnight bags? Too much work. I think the trick is to find right person. Then it falls into place. I thought I’d stay single until it all changed

It’s 2023. Women can live whatever lives they want. Both my best girl friends are single never married. No children. Neither of them is dating. They live happy engaging interesting lives. They are much happier than many women who spend their days mopping around and complaining about their terrible husbands. Life is too short to waste in miserable marriages.

Live your life the way you see fit

Thanks for the vote of confidence divine, appreciate it :-) It’s just been my experience that guys these days seem to want a woman they can conveniently fit into their lives and who will adapt to them, without any compromise whatsoever. Call me crazy, but that’s not how relationhips should work. You meet each other halfway as best you can, and if you can’t, then maybe it’s not meant to be. I’m a pretty independent person— that being said, I’m willing to compromise on many things, but I’ve just met so many guys who keep trying to change me and I resent it. Take me as I am or leave me be. I would love to have a wonderful, fulfilling relationship, but I don’t NEED it. That’s been an issue with guys too. So has my friendships with other guys. What can I say— I’ve always had more guy friends than girl friends. The bottom line is that I don’t need fixing or saving, and I refuse to be something that a guy can accrue just for the purpose of being married. I have not idea where I’m going with this rant, but it’s been said at least LOL

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Thanks for this!
divine1966