Just gonna cut right to the chase.

My husband and I have only been married about half a year. We have been friends/in a relationship for about 3 years before we got married. October 2022, he left his Facebook messenger open on my computer and I see he is sending flirtatious messages to a stripper. I confronted him about it immediately. He came home from work early and he just apologized and seemed to feel guilty. He said he messaged this person out of boredom and didn't really think much of it. However, it is February of this year, and I am still not over this because of other things that have happened.

About a month after the stripper thing, I look into the person as they are a well known entertainer in the area. I find out that they are not a woman, but are a man who is transitioning and is a drag queen. Shortly after this, my husband begins using Twitter. I notice that he followed and liked some bizarre BDSM pages and even commented on some of them trying to get money. All of these pages revolved around something called findom.

After all of this, I have just been questioning our marriage. Before we got married, everything was fine for the most part. We had fights like all couples but nothing too outlandish. Now I live in constant fear that he is hiding things from me on accounts I probably know nothing about.

And also, the whole trying to get money thing from those women on Twitter was a scary red flag, as I am the one who pays for almost everything and takes care of things. My husband works as well, but he is very lazy when it comes to chores and he has a bad history of not paying his bills. We were talking about trying for a baby starting next week but I am scared. I just don't think I can go forward with this after what happened.

Could I please get some advice? Thank you.