Well said Museum Ghost.After moving far away from my abusers,I found myself angrier at my father than I was at my mom.It was so confusing to me because he seldom raised his hand on me. I felt immensely guilty for being angry at him.It has literally taken me years to understand the emotional and psychological cruelty he dished out upon me.My healing didn't commence until I understood his style of abuse which was more damaging to my being.