Thanks, Mending. That's often how it goes for people.

As I've mentioned, it's often the kindest and the genuinely nicest people who are the targets of their scorn. They can get away with a lot more, for far longer, when the victim is patient, forgiving, and kind. Psychiatrists theorized they also are such empty people, that they despise those who actually do have a rich inner life, and are truly good human beings. I have taken a lot of comfort from this, in a roundabout way, and long after the fact.

I went through a series of shocks upon realizing what had been deliberately and steadily done to me. Sometimes, I still experience them. I equate them with the aftershocks of an earthquake.

Sadly, many therapists are not well-prepared to give the kind of advice and direction to help people heal, also. If you're lucky enough to have a therapist who can really assist you, you're very fortunate, indeed. With the proliferation of books and helpful videos, one can find help to start the process. Also, the healing happens in stages, so be prepared for that.

Much compassion for you, if this is what you've been through/ are enduring.