OK folks.... I need to talk through something, and am open to some advice.

In August my wife really began telling the kids that she was divorcing me. In September, she blew the doors wide open on that topic.

A few times she and I had moments of reconnecting, but it was pretty bad.

At Christmas, she really tore things apart with the kids.

My oldest was really overwhelmed and drew a hard line: we leave together, or he was leaving on his own. He was ready to move away.

We found a house, by chance, that suited our needs. Despite a TON of work, and our best efforts, our house didn't sell, and we weren't able to buy the other house.

In good faith, my wife moved out anticipating a sale, and anticipating us splitting assets 50-50.

Well, now we have a situation. She is in an apartment and financially strapped. She made that move in good faith. Me and the kids are in the house. My lawyer friend has advised not to make a move, especially not until I get another lawyer.

My morals say, get back on track with selling the house. You are shafting her.

I get a lot more peace out of waiting. Me and the kids need a break. We really do.

But, if her finances get bad enough she could move back in, which would escalate things again.

What do you all think?