Update...

I have put this friendship... "on hold"... friends are "forever and a day" with me... however... they cannot be allowed to be destructive... and for some reason... well.. the reason... is I have changed dramatically since joining PC... our friendship.. isn't "working"..

Have given it 2-3 years... and alot of effort..

so though it hurts me profoundly.. I emailed her today... requesting she keep her contact limited to e-mails.. only.. and that she.. be careful... or we wouldn't be able to do that..

conquering my eating disorder.. is a priority for me... and.. I cannot let this friendship get in the way of my health...

I told her a few months.. of no contact is a "drop in the bucket"... compared with the 27 years.. we have been friends....

after a few months... we shall see...