I have always had 'goals', yes, things I would like to be different. Things that keep me going back, as you say. I had them with Ex T and found the piece of paper I had written them on last year, it was nice to see that I had achieved lots of them. I no longer found some of the words unthinkable, I made friends, we processed some stuff. My T on Tuesday suggested writing out what I think we still have left to work on, so your post is timely! I took it to session today and she said it was a great list.