Beth, I hope your session goes well today. I would have responded just like you to being told a long hug made my T feel "uncomfortable". Even though, like others have said, it's likely about the hug itself, not about you in particular (like if any client or maybe even a friend or family member hugged her for that long, it would also bother her).

Maybe she's not much of a hugger in general--my T doesn't allow hugs and has said he isn't "touchy-feely" in his outside life either (he even shared once that his sister-in-law asked his wife, after several years in the family, whether it was OK to give him a hug because he seemed so closed off).

You've probably read about this, but I recently (a few months ago) said a platonic "I love you" to my T, which he accepted at first, then got all weird about it when I brought it up again (like saying "I don't know what to feel or think or do about this"). It felt very rejecting, and echoed some stuff that has happened in the past with T's and other people. We've talked through it off and on--and he actually apologized for how he handled it yesterday, which went a long way. I think we now better understand where the other is coming from, including in how we define "love" and who we use it with (he doesn't even say it to friends, for example, though he said he does feel it).

So I'm hoping that in talking with your T, Beth, you can work through this some and understand more about her reaction--and your reaction to it as well. With today, could you say that you need to talk about what happened and save the video for another time, if it will take up most of the session? Or is it possible you can watch the video on your own time then talk about it next session? It seems like watching a video isn't the best use of therapy time anyway, unless it's a case where she'll keep pausing it and you can discuss it. But I do hope, whatever happens, that it goes well. And hugs to you!