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Old Feb 10, 2023, 03:34 AM
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Originally Posted by bizi View Post
nammu, I am so sorry for your mom not eating. sounds like she is ready to go.please don't think about a feeding tube.that would be force feeding her. and you don't want that. keeping her comfortable is what she wants. talk to her read to her the paper if she wishes apply lotion to her arms and legs massage her while putting on the lotion don't forget her feet.It is such a neglected area and a foot massage feels so good. Don't worry about doing it the perfect way, just try different things and ask her to tell you what she likes as you do this.then you could do this daily. It is such a comfort.
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No, no feeding tube. I was a CNA over 40 years ago. And mum signed DNR papers that say no feeding tubes. Antibiotics, yes, oxygen, yes, palliative care, yes. But I’m soooo confused. I’ve been trying to get facts and I’m running into mumbo jumbo. Personal aids are not covered, but aides that do mouth care and washing are? What’s the difference? Because of my back I can’t be a primary caretaker but the expect family to do that!
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