I was talking to some neighbors yesterday. Kind people, both retired, and people who were always cautious in what they said, I found.

I told them what was going on in our home, and gave an example of some of the "off" thinking. They looked at each other and told a matching story from their adult daughter.

Then, that's what we did for an hour. I gave an example of some odd personality or memory thing, and they told an equivalent story. Their daughter has bipolar depression and some symptoms of a personality disorder. They lost her for a few years, but she entered psychiatric care and is managing symptoms just fine now.

The lady said to me, Nothing you did was wrong, because no matter what you did it would be wrong. You became the target of her anger. That conclusion was made. She just worked backwards to then justify that anger.

That gave me an enormous sense of relief.

She also said, when their daughter moved out it took about 6 months and then her boyfriend became the target. That's when daughter realized she had a problem.

This may make it harder for me to move forward, because I'll wait to see what happens with my wife's symptoms.

Meanwhile she is hollering that she's oppressed and has to fight, fight, fight for everything.

RDM