I’d be careful talking to people about your wife unless these people are strictly your own individual friends or your therapist .

Sadly in divorce proceedings this kind of stuff is called “smear campaign”. If this was your therapist or your lawyer or people who don’t know your wife, then it’s different. Talking to neighbors absolutely falls into smear campaign. I am not saying you are doing it on purpose but just be careful. She might still move back in but neighbors already know stuff about her that isn’t their business.

Even in no fault states, judges don’t look favorable at this kind of stuff and it often backfires. People sometimes lose custody and get financial stuff cut off if it gets out simply because judge gets mad about it. Just be careful

As about acting oppressed, when they are the oppressors. That’s common for people with PD. Not saying she has it, not here to diagnose but lots of her decision making and things she says point towards possibly PD