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Old Feb 11, 2023, 01:09 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
If your husband can miraculously find 900 next month, then I’d ask for that money to pay your medical collection. If that ER visit occurred during your marriage (did you not have insurance?), why didn’t he contribute to pay it to the hospital? It happened when you were married. He ignored it??? Went to eat in restaurants, bought pot, cigarettes, alcohol all while your bill went on collection? That’s not what should be happening in a marriage.

I’d accept his offer of 900 to pay debt collectors and explain to him why. No Id not be dating him but I would treat this medical collection is marital debt, which he’s partially responsible for as it occurred during marriage. Why be married if not even share responsibilities?
I do not agree with that. It was my issue that sent me to the emergency room. We split our expenses 50/50 so sharing my bit of cost for an ER visit would be like him asking me to pay for his personal credit card debt.

I asked him for 1K to split the cost of the chair gift I gave him. That made me feel like CRAP.

I am not taking any sizable chunk of money from him, nor am I going to ask him for more. It doesn't feel right to me, so I am not going to do that.
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