Hi Velcro. I appreciate the novel! I also will sometimes end up crying in session because I'm upset about something with Dr. T and have trouble saying it. Like the other day...at least he realized I was crying about something other than what we were actually talking about and asked me. I'm glad your T figured it out!

I get being really upset when a T doesn't respond to an email though (especially of the type that you sent)--that's happened with ex-MC, ex-T (she didn't generally respond, but there was one where I was really struggling that I thought she'd respond to), and Dr. T. And one of the "perks" of Dr. T is that his policy is to always respond to emails, though he only replies in the morning. And I sent him something Wednesday night, but still hadn't heard back by midafternoon Thursday (so followed up, and he'd just been busy). But because he *always* replied with something (even if it was "I wasn't able to reply to your email this morning; do you want me to reply later, or can we just talk next session?"), so I freaked out a bit.

I think I'd need to determine a T's email policy in the beginning, like are they OK receiving them, but won't necessarily respond (or maybe I'd have to ask for a response). Or that they may take a couple days. Just to set my expectations.

I do like your wording about whether a T has experience with attachment issues. That sounds better than what I said! So thanks.