Something else that occurred to me that maybe I'd save for a phone consult or first session: I'm going to want to process some of what happened in my therapy with Dr. T. And I want to make sure they'd be OK with my taking some time to do that.

When I briefly left Dr. T a few years ago, I saw this one T a couple times. I told him that I'd likely need to process what had happened with Dr. T, and he said something like, "I don't think we should spend much time on what happened with your past therapist." It's part of what made me realize that he wasn't a good fit for me.

And Dr. T said at one point (maybe a year ago) that he felt we spent too much time discussing ex-MC in the beginning. But I needed to process that, and at the time, I was still seeing him, then the rupture happened, which I needed to process. I'm glad he didn't tell me that at the time (that we spent too much time talking about him), but it still felt weird hearing it later on. Besides, I told him from the start that I was initially consulting with him to try to deal with my transference for ex-MC! Why would he think I wouldn't have spent much time on it?

Obviously, I wouldn't want to spend *all* my time processing stuff that happened with Dr. T, but I will need to talk about it some. And if a new T has an issue with that, then they aren't the right one for me.