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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
It doesn't help that on Friday, he said that I'd probably hit up against boundaries with any therapist and be unhappy with them. Well, either that, or they'd have bad boundaries, and then things would get messy. Which also implies that the problem is *me*, not him or other therapists. I'm not sure he realizes that a therapist can be warm and accepting while still having good boundaries.
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This is him waving a giant flag that he just doesn't get it. Because YES that's exactly what's going to happen and it's A GOOD THING! That's where the real work starts in relational therapy, when you start to have real reactions to things in a place where the person can accept your feelings and help you look at them (their origins, their impact on your body, their presence in your current life) in a non-judgmental way. Your therapist can have good boundaries and also completely empathize with the way they are currently pissing you off.
