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Old Feb 12, 2023, 03:34 PM
InkyBooky InkyBooky is offline
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This does sound concerning and is possibly a red flag.

It's impossible to know exactly how he intended that comment to land for you, but regardless of his intentions his comment made you feel "very uncomfortable"- so it's definitely an issue you need to address one way or another. You could decide that he has crossed a line and that you don't want to see him again. There would be nothing wrong with doing that. You don't owe him an explanation or another session. You could simply send an email and say something like "Please cancel my future appointments. I will not be returning to therapy with you."

Or, you could tell him how the comment made you feel. Let him know that it made you very uncomfortable and that it felt like he was possibly crossing a major boundary....and see how he handles that. Then decide if you want to move forward. Whatever you do is always your choice, regardless of what he may say about it.

The only thing I would suggest you not do is ignore or diminish the fact that you feel this way or that his comment made you uncomfortable. In other words, please don't brush it under the rug and talk yourself out of addressing this issue with him (or terminating if that's what you decide is best for you). You deserve to feel safe and comfortable in your therapy and with your therapist.
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