I think it is a skill some people are better at than others. I wouldn’t say it is being destined. It is a choice to keep back and let others approach. I think those who are good at it have a natural ability, but a skill is something that can be learned. I’m not sure how it is learned, though. Did we all learn it from watching others and then trying out our own style to see how well it bodes? There’s nothing wrong with being someone who waits for others to approach, but it does limit you to forming relationships with people of your choice. Instead, you are leaving it up to others to choose you.