Yes it is important. She is very supportive of my financial situation and everything else I have been doing for past 3 years as being sober but when its comes to topic of sex/dating while we are waiting to seperate, that's when things go south. Just for saying sake , she will vent and indicate Go ahead and sleep with whoever you want as long as it doesn't affect the kids. We are both stuck at this. I don't wanna do anything that will make it worse . Whatever I have put in for past 3 years in order to rebuild from ground up . But that ship has sailed . She senses we are not even connected emotionally so physically its no hope at all. Currently my only outlet to my physical needs are self pleasure and I use porn at times to give me that break from all this stress to which she objects but what are my options? Sad part is my SO thinks I am hypersexual and addicted to sex. She says she has needs too and where does she go?? she wont go and vent to a therapist . It's me to blame for everything and me to vent . I am trying to improve my financial situation by getting weekend jobs.